Every so often a
book catches fire in the world of higher education punditry. The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt is a recent example.
I’ve read many articles referring to Coddling, some by people who have
actually read the book, and I’ve seen references to it by many others who refer
to these articles even if they haven’t read the book for themselves. By the
time I put my name on the hold list at my local library, it was quite long. The
book finally arrived and now I can say I’ve read it.
Many have commented
that the book’s title is less than apt to its content. I agree, but it depends
on how one defines the word ‘coddling’. (The authors define it as ‘overprotection’.)
The book’s subtitle more aptly presents the problem: “How Good Intentions and
Bad Ideas are Setting Up a Generation for Failure”. One point brought up in Coddling
is ‘concept creep’ – the usage of words such as ‘trauma’ and ‘aggression’ are
specific examples the authors bring up. Thanks to all the punditry, this book
is likely contributing to an expanded definition of the word ‘coddling’.
Interestingly, the book’s title did not originate from the authors but from an
editor, when the forerunner to the book was published with the same title in The
Atlantic.
I’m glad Lukianoff
and Haidt were able to expand their thoughts carefully and potentially
constructively in the extended form of this book. Over the years I’ve found
myself increasingly tempted to consume information through short articles, but that
often papers over the nuance and complexity of the issues involved. I have to consciously
make an effort to read longer, often denser, treatises to get a better handle
on things. (After all, I study complex systems.) If we all took a little more
time to read, listen and think, and curb the temptation to knee-jerk reactions
of outrageous response, the world might be a better place.
The authors try to
do this in their book by first presenting the Three Great Untruths that fuel
the vicious cycle of outrage that have been highlighted by the mass media. What
makes an insidious Untruth easy to propagate? Popular Lies, those that get
repeated over and over again, have a grain of truth in them and they hit close
to home. Distorted, yes, but when it resonates, it kinda, sorta feels like it
might be true.
First up is the
Untruth of Fragility. This perhaps is where Coddling gets its name. The
catchphrase? “What doesn’t kill you makes you weaker.” Play to your strengths!
Avoid challenges that might make you look weak! If you get a C in this class,
your ambitious dreams are over. If you struggle, you lose pace, and you’re out
of the running in the ratrace of life. There is a grain of truth. If the
struggle is severe enough (and without recourse or help), it can make you
weaker. But human beings time and again show that they are often more robust and
come out of a struggle (with scars perhaps) but overall in better shape and
able to withstand more challenges.
Next, there’s the Untruth
of Emotional Reasoning: “Always trust your feelings”. Sometimes your gut
instinct tells you the right thing to do. You shouldn’t just discount your
feelings – they can be a useful source of information. But emotions don’t
always lead you in the right direction, even though there’s something that
feels ‘right’ about following your feelings – you’re being ‘true to yourself’. It
requires struggle to do something contrary to one’s feelings as if you’re resisting
your own ‘will’ so to speak. When someone hurts my feelings, it feels painful.
My antagonist might be malicious, but it might also be an honestly unintentioned
hurt.
This leads to the Untruth
of Us versus Them: “Life is a battle between good people and evil people.”
Arguments have been made that humans are, to some extent, evolutionarily wired
towards tribalism. Community has many advantages including strength in numbers.
Strengthening ties within that community, can often be enhanced by having a
common obstacle or enemy to be overcome or withstood. If I’m on the side of
Good, anyone who is not on my side is Evil!
The next six
chapters discuss the sources of this shift towards these Untruths. The chapter
I found most interesting was the analysis of growing anxiety and depression,
particularly in iGen – kids born
circa 1995 and thus entering college circa 2013. There are multiple possible reasons
for this trend, and the authors try to address the available evidence. As you
might have guessed, it’s complicated. There is no smoking gun explanation but
there are interesting correlations that likely require further study. The
graphs showing adolescent depression rates is, well, depressing. Apparently, it’s
significantly worse for females compared to males. Cases of “nonfatal
self-inflicted injuries” have increased noticeably since 2010, as iGen girls enter their high school
years.
“Paranoid
Parenting” and “The Decline of Play” are among the six. According to the
authors, childhood has become test prep. Although the present book focuses on
the U.S. and makes reference to English-speaking countries, it would be
interesting to compare the data with East Asia – where test prep reigns supreme
in many countries. In my regular job as a college professor, I don’t often
interact directly with parents of my students except on graduation day.
However, as a student-adviser I’ve noticed more issues related to mental health
and intrusively concerned parenting. As an administrator, I’ve seen my share of
more complicated cases. All I will say is that things can be quite challenging
for today’s youth. I’m glad I grew up in a different milieu, when things seemed
truly simpler and less stressful.
To balance the
three Untruths, the authors close with a section titled “Wising Up”. There are
a number of suggestions. I won’t go through them in detail, but here are three
catchphrases mentioned that counter the three Untruths.
·
Prepare
the child for the road, not the road for the child
·
Your
worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own thoughts, unguarded
·
The
line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being
There are no
simple solutions although the authors briefly discuss societal changes that
could steer us away from the intensifying of Coddling. It will be difficult.